EVENT: Death Cafe


I’ll be hosting a Death Cafe out at Sticks and Stones on July 14th at 2pm.

Address: Sticks and Stones 11037 Lee Hwy, Fairfax, Virginia 22030

For anybody interested, this will be a free event.

A Death Cafe is a scheduled non-profit social gathering for the express purpose of frankly discussing death over food and drink, usually tea and cake. The goal of this group gathering is to educate and help others become more familiar with the end of life issues that all of us will encounter throughout our lives – whether it be witnessing/holding vigil for a loved one or friend, or preparing for our own eventual deaths.

The idea of the Death Cafe originated with Swiss sociologist and anthropologist Bernard Crettaz, who organized the first Café Mortel in 2004.

Participants will be urged to discuss their understanding, thoughts, dreams, fears and all other areas of death and dying at this event. We will also discuss the kind of documentation and work needed to be considered before death, in hopes that people will be better prepared and not so overwhelmed when dealing with the aftermath of the death of a loved one.

It’s Official – I am now an End-of-Life Doula

The role of an End-of-Life Doula is to accompany the dying person and their loved ones through the final months, weeks and days of life. The doula provides support, resources, education and friendship for those who accept and embrace dying as a natural part of life, not just an abrupt ending. This period of life may end up lasting a year or a day.

The end-of-life doula adds a layer of support for both the dying person and their family to help them live life to the fullest.

Espiritu Santo

This coming Memorial Day Weekend, I’ll be presenting a class about working with Ancestors at the coming Espiritu Santo event out at Four Quarters in Artemas, PA.

Friday, May 26th to Monday, May 29th, 2017
190 Walker Lane
Artemas PA 17211
Full Weekend: Members $40 registration, Nonmembers $50 registration,
Single Day Registration: Saturday only $20
Event includes Saturday and Sunday Feasts, and Monday morning continental breakfast.
Please RSVP by May 20th!

(From the text of the Four Quarters website) Espiritu Santo is a unique opportunity to explore the rich Afro-Caribbean religion of La Regla Lucumi or Santeria. Rapidly growing in the United States, Santeria celebrates the universal spirits of nature, The Orisha; the spirits of our ancestors, The Egun; and our ability to speak with them directly through ceremony and divination.

Especially welcoming of newcomers, we will provide a weekend full of informative workshops, ceremonies, divination, drum and dance. Traditional Cuban cooking will be featured as well as an opportunity to meet with Priestly initiates of the religion.

Celebrating the Spiritual Traditions of the West African Diaspora and their Rebirth in
the New World. Welcoming of EarthSpirited people of any background, the organizers of Espiritu Santo extend their blessings and hope that this can be an opportunity to discover Ifa and Orisha worship in its traditional way. Espiritu Santo is designed to provide an accessible introduction for the curious beginner (Aleyo) as well as networking opportunities for the initiate (Aborishas and Olorishas). Perhaps the Orisha will speak to you.

We honor Spirit with Ancestor Ceremony Friday evening.
On Saturday, a full day of teaching, readings with Babalawos and an evening Guiro of song, percussion, and dance, with a Feast.
Sunday begins with a blessing of Warriors, both Lukumi and non-Lukumi, followed by a traditional Lucumi Warrior Feeding.
Plus more workshops and readings, culminating with an evening Celebration for Ochun with Feast.



Diloggun Readings – Saturday, Feb 25th

It’s been forever since I updated – please forgive me.

I’ll be doing Diloggun readings out at Sticks and Stones in Fairfax on Saturday, February 25th from noon to 5pm.

I’ll also be doing an Introduction to Working With Ancestors class on Saturday, March 25th from 4pm until 7pm. I’ll be doing Diloggun readings at the store from noon until the class starts that day as well.

Sticks and Stones
11037 Lee Hwy, Fairfax, VA 22030
(703) 352-2343

Paranormal Investigation Case Files – 001 – Philadelphia, PA

February 25th, 2013

This past saturday night was my first time accompanying a paranormal investigative team – Cressona Paranormal. We went to a house about 45 minutes or so outside of Philadelphia, PA. The client had experienced things moving around in the house and had found some scratches on the top of one of his dressers, but nothing else really directed at him in a negative way. He stated that at one point, while he was practicing with his Death Metal band in the basement, there was a loud LA LA LA that came through the speakers. The women that would enter his house, however, would usually leave with a sense of dread/discomfort, if not scratches – one was scratched up in the attic, the other in the basement. There was at least one woman that it tried to push down the stairs.

Apparently a Wiccan priestess that came in to bless the house at one point felt VERY uncomfortable when she left.

The moment I stepped inside, then started up the stairs to the kitchen, I felt a pressure on my lower legs – like there was somebody trying to push them back in order to make me stumble. It happened on almost every step, but I shrugged it off. I get a lot of these – well, what I call ‘BOO!’ moments when encountering spirits for the first time. I find that it’s usually something that likes scaring or being tricksy with people. I don’t really scare easily, and I get either sighs of disappointment or frustration that it isn’t working when I don’t react the way they want me to.

However, once on the middle level of the house, it was almost a null zone; like a cushion between what’s going on in the basement, the top floor or in the attic.

This was my first time meeting the team – there were introductions all around and everybody was very friendly and excited; then I started getting jumpy. I felt an overwhelming urge to start walking the house. Usually, when this happens and I’m alone or with other people that are two headed, like myself, I just zip off to where I feel most pulled to. Since it was my first time with this group, and I didn’t want to overstep my bounds, I asked if I could go down into the basement. We all decided to start doing the initial house walkthrough and headed downstairs.

Immediately, there was a feeling of immense pressure. I started seeing these images of pipes bursting and stuff breaking on that mental onionskin in my mind’s eye. The Client’s musical equipment is all set up downstairs. There was a genuine feeling of rage down there. I started looking around and spotted the female torso of a plastic store mannequin off in the corner. Immediately, the words, “Get that thing THE FUCK out of here!” kept repeating over and over in my head.

I got clear very quickly that whatever lives in the basement did NOT want us there. When I encounter spirits like this, there’s usually an initial, “Who the hell do you think YOU are?” component. After I react calmly and quietly – and they’ve had time to ‘sniff me out’, as it were, they calm down and back off, curious as to what I’m going to do. It’s a very, “Oh. Shit. You actually see and hear us.” kinda thing. If they don’t like something I’ve done in their space, I get yelled at in my head, at which point I then back off and apologize for giving offense. It’s almost like having a conversation with a very keyed up person that just wants to fight, at least in the beginning. Initially, the angry presence in the basement showed itself as a weird, angry squiggle on a piece of paper – one that kept twisting itself up and moving around.

The client then pointed out patches of red splashes on the concrete. He said that they just appeared one day, getting darker and darker. They’re dark red, and it looks as if something’s been pulled through the edges of them. They go right up to the carpet under the drumset – then beneath it. He’d tried to get the stains to come out, but has so far been unsuccessful.

After a few minutes in the basement, we headed upstairs. I felt a couple half hearted pushes at my legs on the way back up to the midsection of the house, but nothing really earnest.

Once on the upper level, both myself and my partner in crime – another medium/practictioner that I work really well with, noticed that there were crosses on every door – almost every wall, and the client has a pile of them on his bedside table. Something in his bedroom was FURIOUS about the crosses, but not in a malevolent way. It was just hugely irritated about them. I got the strong feeling that the spirit was Jewish and didn’t appreciate not having his faith represented in the house as well. I mentioned this to my partner, and she started singing a part of the Mourner’s Kaddish, and the feeling calmed down.

We then went up into the attic. I was immediately drawn to a really dark corner of the attic where I crouched down, walked over and started talking with this very animated spirit that really seemed to enjoy screwing with people. There was no menace intended; he just enjoyed freaking people out and scaring them a little. He was very playful and chatty, but didn’t seem intent on actually hurting anybody.

We then walked back down into the client’s bedroom, and I asked my friend to sing the Mourner’s Kaddish again for the Jewish spirit. After a few minutes of her song, I felt this wave of sadness and gratitude that wasn’t mine come through me. It brought me to my knees and I wept as I held her hands. Then it was gone, and I was able to stand back up. We urged the client to pick up a Star of David to place in his house to respect the spirit.

It’s important to state that whenever I go into a place that feels full of ‘not living, but still there’ things, my sole intent is to connect and help them. In the end, it’s up to the homeowner to try to respect and live with the spirit, if it chooses to stay.

With this done, it was time to set up cameras and microphones; for the paranormal investigative group to now do it’s thing. My friend and I headed down to the basement with Jim, the guy that had founded the group. The other members of the team went upstairs. As we were heading down the stairs, something set off the laser tripwire ahead of us. None of us had crossed in front of the beam.

When we got downstairs, I pulled a chair over to an enormous drumset, and asked to have all the lights turned out. With the lights out, Jim began to take pictures – the flashes of light making it into a surreal experience (well, moreso than usual). I far prefer darkness or very low lighting when doing stuff like this, although I have communicated with spirits in cemeteries in the middle of the day before. For some reason, the darkness is more comforting. The investigative team is going through the data collected, so I can only recount what I experienced.

It turns out that the spirits of several revolutionary war soldiers were both terrified and dismayed by the music that the guy was playing. They had no frame of reference for it, and it was extremely disconcerting and upsetting to them. Me and my partner began singing older songs, which is something we sometimes do to soothe the spirits that we sense when the atmosphere becomes tense or oppressive, and it seemed to be much appreciated.

There was something else in the basement that was just FURIOUS. I did what I could to assist it, but have been requested not to speak more of it publically by the entity itself. The laser tripwire didn’t trigger again during our time down in the basement.

We went back upstairs to find the other members of the team on the top floor, still asking questions with EVP Recorders and headphones. One of them stated that she’d heard a woman crying at one point – heartbreaking sobs. The woman in the other room said she’d heard the same thing. In fact, they thought that it might be one of us crying in the basement. It wasn’t. Listening to the recording sent chills up my spine; it was clearly audible – but the odd thing is that I never actually felt the presence of a female spirit in the house. Everything I encountered or sensed was very male.

After a short discussion, we headed downstairs into the living room, where one of the investigators set up three flashlights around an EMF meter. The flashlights were placed to the right, the left and then behind the meter. The top connectors to the flashlights were unscrewed until the flashlight went out until somebody actually touched it to make the connection between the batteries and the light itself. With the three flashlights out, one of the investigators began asking questions – stating that the silver flashlight was for yes, the black for no, and the orange one behind the meter was for ‘we want to stop doing this now’.

I’d never seen this done before, and the EMF meter would flash dramatically every time one of the flashlights went on in response to a question. The investigator would then ask the spirit to back away from the flashlight, and it would go off. Multiple questions were asked, and the flashlights definitely seemed to be acting in accordance with actually answering the questions. It was wild.

During this process, the room kept getting colder and colder. My toes got so cold they actually started hurting. My friend was also experiencing the same thing, as was the client. The client also mentioned that from time to time, he’d get really cold while sitting on the couch – so not really sure what that was about. Drafty room or spirit presence? Hard to say – but once we stopped using the flashlights, the room started coming back down to a reasonable temperature.

In the end, the client was advised to, when he wasn’t downstairs playing Death Metal, to play more soothing music for the spirits that lived down there, to try to come to a respectful accord of some sorts – as well as removing the mannequin torso. It was also suggested that the client set up a small space for the Jewish spirit, placing a candle and some water, as well as a Star of David, to respect the spirit and to live with it without stress or agitation for either the spirit or the homeowner.

Meet and Greet

I’m doing a Meet and Greet out at Sticks and Stones on Saturday, April 23rd.

From 2-4pm I’ll be introducing myself and doing a question/answer session, after which I will then be available for readings in the store.

Time: April 23, 2016 from 2pm to 7pm
Location: Sticks and Stones
Street: 11037 Lee Highway
City/Town: FAIRFAX
Website or Map: http://sticksandstonescircle.…
Phone: 7033522343


Personal Spiritual Agency

If you really wish to delve into the realm of spirits, it is Essential that you understand that your own bloodline is your best spiritual line of defense. You may have already heard this before. You may have heard it more times than you care to count.

It Is In Every Way True.

I’ve spoken and worked with clients who have experienced everything from hearing scary laughter and voices up to being bruised, scratched or almost pushed down the stairs by invisible forces.

Every single time, my first words are, “What is your relationship with your Ancestors?”

The next thing out of my mouth is usually, “You need to establish a relationship with them before you do anything else. Don’t call mediums, don’t call a priest, don’t call a paranormal investigative team. CALL YOUR ANCESTORS.”

If you don’t have a solid foundation with your Ancestors, it will almost assuredly make any uncomfortable paranormal issues that you’re experiencing linger on for far too long, if not actively making the situation worse.

Before I choose to investigate a client’s house, if they’re not already doing so, I always urge them to set up a special, sacred place for those relatives of theirs who have passed, to pay respects to them – a candle, a glass of water, pictures of those who have crossed – you can start really simple. The very act of reaching out and Remembering is HUGE. Actively TALK to them aloud when standing in front of this place of remembrance when you can. Explain to them what’s happening in your life, tell them about your day – your joys, your frustrations – this will help to bring them closer to you, so they can work with you to protect you spiritually.

The second thing – and this is Really Important to remember: You’ve got to Let Go of the Fear.

You have something in your house that’s knocking stuff over, opening and closing doors and doing other uncomfortable and perhaps a little scary stuff? Try to shrug it off. Honestly. The human mind can concoct any number of little horrors to torment you with, especially when you’re all alone and it’s dark outside. There are plenty of spirits who are more than happy to take that and run with it, if you let your fear run wild.

Re-Direct – find something that will pull you out of that fear, and then talk to your Ancestors about what’s happening. Ask for their intervention.

THIS is your Spiritual Agency, an account of your capacity for individualized choice and action. Don’t go giving it to others before trying to solve the issue yourself first. After all, if you invite others in, and they’re able to remove/belay the disturbance – what happens when they leave? When that external agency is gone?

Be strong. Stand on the shoulders of those who came before you, and they will Hold You UP.

Workshop/Class: [RESCHEDULED] Initiating a Connection with Ancestral Spirits and Dealing with Paranormal Phenomena

I’ll be doing a class/workshop on the basics of initiating a connection with Ancestral spirits and dealing with paranormal phenomena out at Crystals, Candles & Cauldrons on Saturday, March 21st from 7pm to 9pm.

Crystals, Candles & Cauldrons
927B, West 36th Street
Baltimore, Maryland 21211
(410) 467-4111



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Initiating a Connection with one’s Ancestral spirits

Many people ask me how they should initially go about connecting with or opening up to their own Ancestral spirits. Although there are many articles on this sort of thing throughout the internet, I’ve decided to go ahead and write one myself.

If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask – you can reach me at ninjacooter@gmail.com

Initiating a Connection with one’s Ancestral spirits

Initially – you can start out with a simple glass of water and a candle, set in a space specifically for the connection you’re trying to initiate. Ensure that you only place items respectful of the connection that you wish to have in this space. This is the first overture that you’ll be making with your Ancestors, so it’s important to be reverent and respectful about this space.

It is, after all, going to be a physical representation of their place in your life from here on out.

When you start feeling a little more comfortable with the connection that you’ve cultivated, you may want to upgrade – to give your Ancestors a larger space, or place of honor, within your house and your life.

One of the best ways to do this is to establish and set up a Boveda.

A Boveda is a spiritual tool/shrine that a spiritualist/espiratista uses when connecting with their Ancestors. Although the Boveda is primarily Christian, you can choose to use elements more in tune with your own spiritual path – but, do keep in mind that a great many of our own Ancestors were Christian, and as a sign of respect to them, you may want to keep the Christian elements.

The main elements of the Boveda are:

  • A small table
  • A white cloth
  • A rosary
  • Incense
  • White candle
  • A crucifix
  • Florida water
  • 9 clear glasses and a larger clear glass
  • White flowers

You’ll want to ensure that you set your Boveda up in a quiet, meditative space in your house. It needs to be a place where you won’t be easily interrupted when communing with it.

When initially setting up a Boveda, you’ll need to cleanse and bless the table itself – washing it using holy water or a mixture called blue water with florida water, casarilla, laundry bluing squares and white flower petals. While you’re doing this, you need to keep your intent focused on what you’re doing – do your best to keep your mind from wandering. This needs to be a very mindful, ‘in the moment’ activity.

During the process of cleansing/blessing the table, you can also choose to focus on the spirits in your lineage who have passed who you wish to get in contact with.

After the table has been cleansed and blessed, you’re going to want to draw a small white cross in the middle of the table with either cascarilla or chalk.

Once this has been done, place the white cloth down and begin to arrange the other elements on the cloth.

The large clear glass (I’ve seen spiritualists use large brandy snifters) is usually placed in the middle, with the nine glasses arranged around them.

It should end up looking something like this:


Initially, while your Boveda will look a bit like the one above, keep in mind that it may morph or shift as your connection with your Ancestors grows stronger. Some Ancestral spirits will end up telling you how they want it to look, whether they want certain elements or images added to or taken away from the Boveda.

Usually, the crucifix is placed in the middle glass.

When all the glasses have been placed, you’ll want to fill them as closely to the rim as possible. The water will act as a draw for negative energies around your house, which is why you should refresh the water on your Boveda weekly. Dispose of the water in a way that takes it away from your house – I usually flush it down the toilet, then refill the glasses, taking care to be mindful of your connection and keeping your ancestors in your thoughts as you do so.

You don’t have to keep the candle lit when you’re not physically tending to the Boveda, but there are many spiritualists who always keep a ‘light on’, as it were, for their Ancestors.

Secondary items you’ll want for your Boveda:

Cigars (essentially, an offering of tobacco – my spirits encourage me to smoke cigars when reaching out to them)

Cascarilla (powdered eggshells compressed into chalk that come in little paper cups – you can find them at your local Botanica)



oraciones-para-el-espiritistaYou’re also going to want to pick up a copy of the ‘Collection of Selected Prayers’ paperback by Allan Kardec. The prayers in this book are selected to offer respite for various suffering spirits, and are good ‘catch all’ prayers to read to initiate a connection with your Ancestors.

To strengthen the connection, you can choose to cook special dishes that relatives loved when they were still alive. By offering our Ancestors food from our table, we’re providing an active place for them in our lives. We help them to realize that we still remember, that we still care.

I also play music or sing songs that my Ancestors liked to bring them closer, to integrate them into my life.

For Ancestors who perhaps haven’t been propitiated directly in years, this is a soothing balm to their spirit.

Over time, finding pictures of past Ancestors to place on the Boveda will also work to strengthen the connection.

As you work to establish your connection to your Ancestors, you may start having what seem like very odd dreams. You may want to work to keep a dream journal by your bed so you can write these down. Sometimes these dreams are messages from our Ancestors that can help us with things that we’re currently encountering in our lives.

Your Boveda will be one of your strongest tools for spiritual enlightenment and assistance, so you’ll want to tend it often.

The connection you forge with your ancestors will also be your strongest protection against possible paranormal issues you may encounter in your life.

Never casually dismiss the connection that you’re working to build with your Ancestors – or your Ancestors themselves. It is said that we stand on the shoulders of those who came before us. Through them, our roads can open – but through them our roads can also close.